Confused and Perplexed

So I've never used our blog as an avenue to vent my frustration and confusion before, but I can't help it tonight. I need a place to write down how I feel and try to deal with it. We've had a rough couple of years with Chris's ex-wife and the situation with his daughter. Two years ago Felicity (Chris's daughter) started asking questions about why her last name is different than her Mom's and sister...she then started asking if she could change her name. So after alot of pain, prayer and love, Chris finally decided to allow Felicity's step-dad to adopt her. In the midst of the legal process, Chris and his ex-wife came to a VERBAL agreement that she would send pictures and an update every so often and keep Chris in the loop. Well the big mistake in that last phrase was that I said a "VERBAL AGREEMENT." Chris has kept his end of the agreement, both Legally AND verbally and has not received any of the agreed upon items from his ex...big surprise. So, respectfully Chris sent his ex an email asking for permission to call Felicity on her birthday. (Something that had been previously agreed upon) So two weeks AFTER Felicity's birthday (tonight) his ex called to fight. She surprisingly forgot about anything they agreed on previously and can't possibly understand why Chris wants any part of Felicitys life now. I CANNOT process the things he is feeling right now or understand his pain, but I know how I am feeling, and I am NOT her parent. I am so frustrated that another member of the human race can be so callous and heartless. He is her FATHER!!! He loved her so much that he gave her what she asked for. The only thing that runs through my head right now is kind of cheesy in relation to this subject, but all I can think about is John 3:16..."For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." I try so hard to have faith and be strong for him, but as a Mother, I am so torn and confused! I want to make things better, that's my nature. And I've never been in a situation that there isn't ANYTHING I can do to help before. This isn't some small trivial trial, this is a child. I know that someday he will have a chance to answer Felicity's questions about why he did the things he did. And I truly believe there will be a day that she wants to know her Father. I believe she will see his love for her NEVER waivered, but grew stronger everyday. I have to believe that she will KNOW without a doubt that there isn't a day that goes by that she isn't in his thoughts and prayers. I've seen that for myself. I'm just having a hard time grasping the here and now. I know that Chris sees alot of Felicity in Taylor...even I can see that. I'm having a hard time understanding how he does it everyday. I am so proud of him and the Man and Father he is to our children. I am proud and impressed with his faith and ability to cope with what is dealt to him. I love him and at the same time I hurt with him. I only hope that I can be the wife and partner he needs to keep him sane and together during these emotionally draining trials. So that's my rant for the night. Phew. I almost feel better. :-)